Apologies if it is heavy

A conversation I had with my friends a night before the first of class has stuck in my mind for the whole day. Paraphrase, of course.

Friend 1: *turns to me* I just had this thought- do asexual people have sex with their partners who are not asexual? 

Friend 2: uhh um

Me: oh, um, I think I saw this discussion somewhere in Reddit, something like asexual people does have sex but not often? 

Friend 2: *chimes in* you are technically correct—kind of. I am asexual, and I do interested in having partners but not sex. So coming to sex, I will not initiate it at all; however, if my future partner wants, I will always be glad to. Simple as it is. 

Friend 1: interesting…

Me: ah, that makes sense

It is a plain and simple conversation, yet it amazed me how talk flies differently between people. I have always known that I’m demisexual and very open about it for a long time. However, often it is brought up by somebody, my sexuality suddenly turns into jokes. 

“Oh, it means you will fuck a table?”

“It is just a phase. You will want to have sex, like everyone.”

“Enough with some silly labels.”

Yet, that conversation, where we talked about asexuality by whim, has imprinted on my brain. A little positive talk sparks me the most out of all the negative, and it gets me looking forward to having this cool class for the rest of the semester.